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Looking At Divorce As An Opportunity

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An article in the Toronto Sun highlights some recently divorced celebrities who have weathered the storm relatively well, including Tiger Wood's ex-wife Elin Nordegren. While the title of the story is "When Women are Better Off Divorced," it's not a reference to her 9-figure alimony.

As divorce attorneys in Chicago also may attest, divorce can either crush a newly single woman's will or provide an opportunity to recharge and embrace her new life. Elin Nordegren, who told People Magazine she feels "stronger than [she] ever has," said she first went through the stages of grief following Tiger Woods' reported infidelity.

Other newly single female celebrities, including Halle Berry and Kate Winslet, also have shown an ability to persevere through divorce and even come out the other end stronger and more empowered.

Deborah Moscovitch, a divorce consultant and educator and the author of "The Smart Divorce," pointed out how life is about choices, including how we choose to live our lives following divorce:

"People seek blame, they seek revenge, they try to take their anger out on their partners and all they get is legal bills. You can stay a victim, you can stay and be miserable, or you can choose to pick up and move forward."

Even after the divorce, Deborah Moscovitch said, projecting anger and sadness only attracts the wrong kinds of people into your life. It's easier said than done, of course, but the divorce consultant provides the following tips for getting your groove back: 

  1. Seek counseling or therapy first instead of letting negative feelings linger.
  2. Don't get into a new relationship right away.
  3. Focus on becoming a positive role model for your children.
  4. Develop healthy new relationships, romantic or otherwise.
  5. Get out of your comfort zone, do new things, meet new people.

But nothing replaces the importance of having a skilled Chicago family law attorney at your side during the divorce proceedings.

Related Resources:

  • Impact of Divorce on Spouses (FindLaw)
  • Consult with an Illinois Family Law Attorney (FindLaw)
  • Tiger Woods Divorce Settlement Finalized (FindLaw's Law & Daily Life Blog)

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